There have been so many times in my life when I have doubted myself. Doubted my worth, doubted my place in this life. What is the purpose? Why am I here?
Over the years things have stuck out to me. One of the biggest things ever said to me came from my sister. I was in a relationship that was abusive and demeaning. I was giving everything, pouring myself out, trying to make it work thinking that it was all I deserved. That this was the best I could get. Then one day, I went to lunch with my sister, and she said, “Blessing, you know you deserve better than this.”
And, I looked at her and asked her what I had been afraid to ask before, “why?”
Without missing a beat, “Because you are God’s daughter. You are a princess of the King of Kings.”
At that moment, Heaven met Earth piercing my heart and soul, Like a lightening bolt. Yes, I am a Daughter of the King and as such I deserve what royalty deserves. I deserve respect and love and care. I deserve more than abuse and self loathing.
It was like this whole time I had been holding onto a burning coal. Fighting and fighting to keep it in my hand because I thought that I deserved it. I had asked for it, so I don’t deserve to let it go. Then she came along and said to me simply, you don’t have to do this anymore. You can let go and live in freedom.
I don’t know if I left there that day and something immediately changed. But, I do know that this was the beginning of knowing that I could leave. That there was better out there for me. Not because of anything I had done or could do but simply because I am a daughter of the King of Kings.
If no one has told you, I am here to tell you today the same thing. You are the Daughter of the King. He loves you very much, so much so that He died for you. He gave His life so that you could live better than this.
Daughter, Sister, Friend, breath that truth in. You deserve more than what you thought. You deserve love and kindness, and respect. You are worthy of that. Not because of anything you can or can’t do. Not because you are a woman or your station in life. You deserve more because someone paid the highest price for you.
The value of something is what someone is willing to pay for that. Your value is the life of the God of the Universe. He lived the perfect spotless life, and took your punishment. He came and took the coal from you that was burning you and destroying you, and has set you free. Walk in that freedom today!
You are a treasure in the arms of Christ!
Lyrics from my favorite song at that time:
Forgiven by Sanctus Real
Well, the past is playing with my head
And failure knocks me down again
I’m reminded of the wrong that I have said and done
And that devil just won’t let me forgetIn this life, I know what I’ve been
But here in Your arms, I know what I am
And I don’t have to carry the weight of who I’ve been
‘Cause I’m forgiven My mistakes are running through my mind
And I relive my days in the middle of the night
And I struggle with my pain, wrestle with my pride
Sometimes I feel alone, and I cry
And in this life, I know what I’ve been
But here in Your arms, I know what I am
And I don’t have to carry the weight of who I’ve been
‘Cause I’m forgivenWhen I don’t fit in
And I don’t feel like I belong anywhere
When I don’t measure up to much in this life
Oh, I’m a treasure in the arms of Christ’
Cause I’m forgiven
And I don’t have to carry the weight of who I’ve been
‘Cause I’m forgiven
As we enter a new age, do you wonder what the future looks like? Have you thought at all about the constitution and the freedoms you have as an American citizen? The horror that people read about with the Wuhan lock down, yet we are headed in that direction if we don’t stand. What Libertities have we given up in the name of being safe?
On March 11th, a day I will well remember because my third son was born that day, the WHO declared COVID 19 a Global Pandemic. Slowly, as time has unraveled what that meant we have spiraled through an extraordinary catastrophe of our freedoms infringed upon and our rights slowly taken away.
What do I mean? Did you know that you are Constitutionally allowed to gather in Public Places?
Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.
Some argue that the right to assemble only goes toward petitioning the government. That, however, is not the case based on how our Founding Fathers wrote it. You can read more about that here.
Why have we been so quick to sit in our homes and wait for someone to save us from such a “deadly” virus. The population of our country and the numbers that have proved over time do not show the virus to be any ore deadly than the flu would. Nad yet we sit, not acting, and not fighting being told when and where we can go because of “health concerns and public interests”. What has happened to the people that they have been so scared or blinded by fear to act?
One thing could have led us down this path. It started over 15 years ago in the form of MySpace. Then, slowly transformed into Facebook, and instagram, twitter, Snapchat and more. Why do I point to these as being the culprit? They, in and of themselves, are not bad. However, have you ever been with a group of friends and one of you gets spooked by something then the entire group is running in fear? As I have seen since March 11th, fear is a powerful controller. And who is spreading fear? We are! We see something about Corona/Covid 19 and share it to our stories, or tweets, or feeds. Another person shares it, and soon it goes viral. Just like the virus. Fear is viral.
If you leave your house, you will catch this disease and if you have it, you will die. Everyone has poor health and is at risk. Or, so that is how they made us feel. Don’t let your grandparents get it because then they will die alone. Don’t be the one to kill your friend. Now, a lot of people have been getting it AND recovering, they are saying that the second time you get it is the deadly time.
Thankfully they have produced a vaccine in the shortest amount of time ever in the history of vaccines. Now, with this being release they will begin to ask people to prove they have been vaccinated, just to work or go to a store. Discrimination will be up and if you do not vaccinate you will not be allowed to leave your house. It is coming, and yet we do not fight. We sit back thank them for controlling us and giving us a hardly tested medical injection and thank them for it. We get sick, we have reactions. But, who will be held liable for that?
In the meantime, as those vaccines roll out, our country has been in a flux of shut downs and lock downs. No one is calling it quarantine, because they cannot. The government cannot quarantine you especially if you are not sick.
Under 42 Code of Federal Regulations parts 70 and 71, CDC is authorized to detain, medically examine, and release persons arriving into the and traveling between states who are suspected of carrying these communicable diseases. As part of its federal authority, CDC routinely monitors persons arriving at land border crossings and passengers and crew arriving at U.S. ports of entry for signs or symptoms of communicable diseases.
That does not say that if you are a healthy individual, that they have the right to detain you. It does not state that states and local governments have the power to tell you to stay home. But wait, how did so many states and local governments get people to stay home? They have the power to control businesses. And, with marketing to encourage you to stay home because you will be “safer at home”. What did they do? They issued a mandate (not a law) that stated that businesses, except for restaurants and “essential” businesses, would not be allowed to open. So, why would you leave your house? You have no where to go except “essential” businesses.
Yet, where was the public outcry? There was none because you were distracted and afraid. You were told you were “safer at home” and didn’t want to die. Unfortunately, we will all die one day. Unfortunately, because we have allowed this to carry on… America may never be free again.
One day, it hit me, I may be okay with sitting at home but my children and children’s children will look back at this time and ask me… why didn’t I fight? Why didn’t I do something to stop it? And that is something I cannot live with.
This is just the beginning. The beginning of the freedom we had as Americans taken away. It will get much worse and this new “normal” will indeed be something of a horror when we look back on from the cages of our own making. Led out of fear and chatted into.
What will you do? Sit, “safe at home” or Rise and fight for the freedom that you were granted by those who fought before you?
As for me and my house, we will fight.
Part of our nightly routine is reading our three sons stories before we tuck them in their beds, kiss them, and turn off the lights. I have loved reading different stories to them over the past few years. We all had those stories or movies that are our go to for feeling good. It is comforting knowing how the story will end and still exciting to relive the adventure every time we experience it. Here is a list of just that, five stories my sons have wanted to relive over and over for months on end.
1. LIONHEART by Richard Collinridge
Follow the story of Richard, a little boy, in the whimsical fairy tale of running from monsters and overcoming his fear of monsters and the dark with the help of his stuffed animal Lionheart.
Why you and your sons will love it: Enchanting and captivating as Richard runs through a magical forest and plays with animals while being chased by his fears and monsters. In the end, he realizes the strength he has in his own heart and is able to overcome the fear once and for all.
2. Storybook Knight by Helen Doherty
Follow this tale of one of the bravest mouse knights you will ever read about. He uses his whits to overcome and enchant different mythical monsters he meets on a journey to face a dragon.
Why you and your sons will love it: the captivating illustrations enchant you as you go on an adventure to face a dragon and along the way you learn the power of books. As well as learning that to overcome the worst of things, sometimes you need to think outside the box and show everyone a different way of doing things. That you don’t have to conform to everyone’s views but be yourself and that will be enough.
3. Pout Pout Fish by Deborah Diesen
A funny little tale about a gloomy fish whom no one understands and everyone thinks should just be happy. He declares thoroughly that he cannot change because that’s just who he is only to be proven wrong by the act of one special fish in the end.
Why you and your sons will love it: Little boys live funny sounds and this one has them in it. Making funny faces and sounds as you travel through the story, you and your sons are sure to be giggling by the end of it.
4. Roadwork by Sally Sutton
A book about the ins and outs of constructing a road. This one is a fast read with funny rhyming words that boys everywhere will love. See how they ping bang and tap everything into place.
Why you and your sons will love it: If your sons love cars, he will love this book and seeing how roads are paved. Every time I read this, I ended up making it into more of a song because of how well the rhythms and songs move together. The boys love to read it again and again.
5. Little Blue Truck by Alice Schertle
Find out what happens in this fun little story about a rusty blue truck making its way through the country side. He enjoys the views and the animals only to be passed up by a big important truck.
Why you and your boys will love it: A car and animal book, your sons will love the sounds he hears through out the book and you’ll love the helping hand lesson he learns from this one. What better way to learn to stop and say hey to all the people you meet along the way? You never know when you will need just that friend to lend a hand!
Other books my sons and I really enjoy are:Boys List
What are some of your favorites?
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A pregnancy that began unexpectedly continued in that vein all the way through labor and delivery. Everything that I thought would be was the opposite. That’s how Rowan entered the world.
When I took the pregnancy test, I didnt expect the positive. I was only testing because I had one and knew my period would be soon. When those two pink lines appeared I was surprised but not upset. Those feelings would come later.
Over the next few months, I went through a plethora of emotions. Especially after finding out it was our third boy. I had a difficult time adjust to that and dealing with the disappointment of not getting a girl and how was I going to deal with three crazy little boys.
The first trimester, I barely got off the couch because of how tired I felt. It wasnt easy dealing with the older boys and being exhausted. My patience didnt last long and momma guilt became a constant companion. Was I doing too little? How could I handle more? The boys seemed to take my mood and multiply it with their own 10x over. Days were not always bad, but bad days were really bad.
Somewhere along the way, I entered the second trimester and the tiredness ceased but then the itching began. At first, it seemed just normal dry skin itch that would be soothed with lotion. Then, as weeks carried on, the itch became unsatisfiable. Lotion or not, I was itching. I itched where my clothes touched. I developed a rash on my armpits, similar to one I had with Gabriel, as well as other similar symptoms.
Finally, around 34 weeks, we decided to test for ICP . We took blood for liver enzymes and blood for my bile acids. The liver enzyme test gets results back in a day, the bile acids can take up to 5 days. So the next day, I knew my liver was elevated and we quickly suspected that the bile acid results would come back positive for ICP.
My world was reeling. The labor and delivery with Gabe was one of the hardest things. I didnt go into labor on my own, but had to induce with castor oil and the kitchen sink. It lasted 19 hours, and I was transferred to the hospital from the birth center.
Here I was in an unexpected pregnancy with a boy again about to travel a very hard road I didnt want to go. After all that happened with Gabe, I had done a ton of research about ICP and knew the best course of action was getting the rx to keep bile acids down and deliver in my 37th week to prevent the risk of still birth.
I was scared, I was depressed, and I was hopeless. The whole next week I lived in a dark place thinking the worst and that there was no hope that the labor would be easy and that I wouldnt end up in a lot of pain and possibly at the hospital. The midwife and I discussed what the bile level results would mean and came up with a course of action. Thankfully, she said it depends on how high they are that we would induce at 37 because of it being a white boy and them having a harder time adjusting to life outside the womb, we wanted to keep him as safe as possible but in the womb as long as possible.
A week came and went, and my bile levels came back… normal! They were a 4 and anything above a 10 was ICP. Even with this sigh of relief and little hope, there was still a high chance of it turning into ICP as the weeks went on. Our plan was to try to get him out by week 39.
So as soon as I hit 37, I started taking labor prepping pills in an attempt to induce. Things that tone the uterus, things that help ripen the cervix, pumping, etc. Anything that would help bring labor on as early as possible.
My emotions often tended toward depression in this time. It was difficult to see hope or that it would end up anywhere but in the hospital. I would try to cling to God praying that every day was the day I would go into labor and meet this baby boy. I would plead with God for what I wanted. I would surrender and say do your will. I would be angry and ask him why he was doing this. I would praise him because he knew best. Ironically in this time I was doing a bible study on 1 and 2 Kings that was themed trusting God. It kept me afloat and motivated to keep going.
Kyle came home a few times to me melting down. Just dealing with the boys and all the pregnancy hormones seemed to overwhelm me 3 of 5 days he worked.
In addition to that, the rx seemed to make me itch more rather than give relief, but I kept taking it knowing it would help keep my baby safe. Weeks came and went and although I would have Braxton hicks and prodominal labor.. labor itself was far off.
There were two times I thought for sure labor had started, only to realize nothing was progressing.
So week 39 came on a Friday, and on Saturday my braxton hicks woke me up in the night. I thought for sure this was it. They kept coming at a regular interval, I just needed them to pick up and do something. So, Kyle and I decided to send the kids on their way so we could walk hopefully making labor progress.
After hours of walking, I tried some pumping and by 3pm everything had stopped and I was exhausted. No progress and all that work for seemingly nothing.
Over the next week, I met with my midwife and she told me I was all but 1.5 dilated so we made a plan to induce by breaking my water the next week if another week came and went. I was devastated. At the rate things were going, that seemed to be where I was at. Here I lasted all this time against all odds by the hand of God’s protection hoping labor would begin only to end up at the end still inducing.
In one of the times that I was praying, praising God and trying to find hope in him, I felt God speak to me through these verse:
“Before she was in labor she gave birth; before her pain came upon her she delivered a son. Who has heard such a thing? Who has seen such things? Shall a land be born in one day? Shall a nation be brought forth in one moment? For as soon as Zion was in labor she brought forth her children. Shall I bring to the point of birth and not cause to bring forth?” says the Lord ; “shall I, who cause to bring forth, shut the womb?” says your God. “Rejoice with Jerusalem, and be glad for her, all you who love her; rejoice with her in joy, all you who mourn over her; that you may nurse and be satisfied from her consoling breast; that you may drink deeply with delight from her glorious abundance.” For thus says the Lord : “Behold, I will extend peace to her like a river, and the glory of the nations like an overflowing stream; and you shall nurse, you shall be carried upon her hip, and bounced upon her knees. As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you; you shall be comforted in Jerusalem. You shall see, and your heart shall rejoice; your bones shall flourish like the grass; and the hand of the Lord shall be known to his servants, and he shall show his indignation against his enemies.
Isaiah 66:7-14 ESV
It gave me hope. I felt like God had been telling me to wait and trust him. Even though things were looking like I thought they were, he was telling me that he was doing something new. Not what I planned but he was working and it would still be perfect.
How do you continue to cling to that when the world around you is crumbling and your hope is fading?
Kyle would encourage me. Some people would say why are you waiting, others would say those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will run and not grow weary, walk and not be faint .
That night she had checked me, Thursday, I had horrible itching that woke me up for several hours. With everything going on, one thing I was glad was that the itching was not as bad as it had been with my pregnancy with Gabe. But this night was reminiscent of the nights with Gabe. I was not going to go through a week of this only to induce anyway. The next morning, I was ready to go ahead and induce. What was the point of waiting anymore?
But then, How could I not wait on God? He hadn’t failed me, and yet I was running out of borrowed time. I decided to give it Friday night and Saturday to see if I was itching as bad as Thursday night. If I did, I would go ahead and induce Sunday. The days came and went, but thankfully the itching wasnt as bad as it had been that Thursday. By Monday, I felt a little more hopeful.
Sunday during the day, I lost my mucus plug. I was ecstatic seeing a little bit of hope that something was happening. Then, I had been up several hours Sunday night with contractions I couldnt sleep through. I also felt a small pop one time as I was getting out of bed. I thought was that my water? But, it wasnt the same as it had been with Kai. There had been more water. So, I chalked it up to other things. As I went throughout Monday, there was more fluid but not constant. I kept going back and forth about what it could be. No labor progression even though the contractions I had had that night seemed to be going somewhere nothing happened.
I kept asking Kyle why I should wait. If we should go ahead and he kept spurring me on. Saying that I felt like I should wait on God and we were going to wait. His faith was holding on more than mine. I didn’t see how God was going to do it in this 9th hour.
I went on walks during the day, hoping things would help. During the day Monday, I got an email from our photographer that she was going out of town thursday and it just seemed like one more thing going against me and that time was up.
Monday night, I was again up for several hours with contractions I couldnt sleep through. Then again that morning more fluid leaked than had been previously. This time I had nothing I could blame it on besides the amniotic fluid. But, I pushed it aside for the time being. I met up with Honour and we walked for a little bit at a park then let the kids play then I went home to rest.
I was hopeless. Two nights of waking up with contractions only to have them taper off into nothing again. Leaking fluid and know that I had only one day and two nights left before induction. I cried and cried after I put the kids down for the quiet time.
I told God and Kyle that I was done and I surrendered all hope. That the last little bit before the baby was induced on Thursday I would just rest, watch tv and not try to bring labor on. I couldn’t do it anymore and I was broken.
Around 430 my itching kicked up, and I took a bath to help sooth it before I had to go cook dinner for us. I was still leaking fluid but nothing constant. By this time, I had decided that I had a leak in my sac but nothing major and just was going back and forth about telling my midwife. Dr Google told me it wasnt that big of a deal, and I knew the baby still had plenty of fluid around him.
After the bath, because my skin hurt to be touched, I put my robe on and cooked dinner. As I was standing there I felt more fluid leak out and decided I should finally at least mention it to my midwife to see what she said.
I text her and she called me within several minutes. We discussed it and decided that she should come test it to see what it was. But both of us knew what it was. Also, on the phone, she mentioned that if it was my amniotic fluid leaking it was probably time to go ahead and get the baby out. Even though on the phone I told her to bring stuff just in case on the inside I was panicked now. I had just surrendered to Thursday but not tonight. I had two nights left and here time was gone. Ripped out from underneath me like a rug.
While waiting on her to arrive, since I was still having Braxton hicks, I tried to stimulate them with pumping to see if that would help bring labor on that evening. I did have several contractions while I waited.
She was there within an hour. We tested it 3 times. The first time, it came back positive and then the subsequent times it was negative. While she was here, she checked me and the good news was that I was now at 3cm. We decided to go ahead and do a stretch and sweep to see if that would bring labor on. After she finished, I was a 4 cm and she confirmed a high leak and not that my whole sack had broken. She wanted to go ahead and break it to deliver the baby within a few hours, but I wasnt ready yet.
We decided to wait til morning to break my water in the hopes that the stretch and sweep worked. She left, what appeared to me, reluctantly and I went to work with breast stimulation to get my contractions going. This was between 7 and 8 pm. By 930, after we had gotten the kids to bed, I could feel a difference in my contractions and knew that labor had begun. We decided to go ahead and and the boys to Honour’s in case the baby came tonight or in preparation for the mornings water breaking.
Kyle took them and I stayed behind working on contractions. When he got home, it was around 1030 and finished a show while I was working through contractions then decided on a walk. They slowed a bit as I let my body take over instead of stimulating things but they continued at an even pace with me knowing that these were the real thing and all i had to do this evening was get it to a 5 to kick my body into labor.
After the walk, I got very tired and just wanted to go to bed instead of labor. So we headed that way. I laid down and with 2 minutes was back up because of the pain of the contraction. It was useless, I wasnt going to be able to sleep through them. As I stood discussing with Kyle what we were going to do, I had a pushing sensation. Kyle and I agreed to call the midwife and get her back worried that she would miss the birth.
Thankfully the pushing sensation didnt last long and seemed to be nothing. Labor was going on but we still had time and my midwife was on her way. We went back out to the living room. We had the birth tub ready to go and put on the Greatest Showman while i stood and swayed through contractions. 20 minutes or so passed and I got a call from my midwife. She got a flat on her way and so Kyle went to get her. Just as he Got there though, she had been able to put the donut on so they both returned back to the house.
I dealt with contractions and watched the movie while they were gone. They got back. We chatted for 5 or 10 min and she sat up things. Then she checked me to see where we were. Thankfully, by now I was a 6cm. My water sac was bulging and she asked if she could break it. I said no that I wanted to wait so she agreed. After only 30 to 45 minutes more, in the middle of a contraction, my water finally broke fully. Thankfully, I had been standing on the tarp that the birth tub was on and it didnt make a huge mess everywhere else.
We started filling the tub and I got in as contractions pick up in intensity. We had finished greatest showman and had put on Sense and Sensibility as a background noise. Mostly we chatted through contractions though. It was relaxed and peaceful besides the pain of the contractions. The birth tub felt like an amazing hot tub I had been missing out on for months. But the contractions were pretty bad.
Thankfully, as I got through them, the talking and the movie helped distract me from the pain. I began to mention my fear of the upcoming pushing . With the pain level, I knew it was right around the corner and I was scared.
The midwife encouraged me saying that I could do it and it would be fine. It would be the final step to having my baby. I had made it this far and there was no stopping it.
I didnt really feel encouraged but her words rang true. I knew there was nothing I could do and eventually I would have to embrace it and not fight it. With each contraction, I started to feel the urge to push.
Each contraction was now unbearable. I was coping with some self applied counter pressure. Kyle tried to help but with the pain, I couldnt stand the addition of touch to my skin. My midwife encourage me to try pushing, both of us thinking it was time. I tried and felt what I thought him coming down a bit, but one or two more contractions didnt seem to amount to anything plus I needed to use the bathroom now.
I didnt want to get out of the water but couldnt just pee in the tub. After one or two more contractions she checked me and told me I was still an 8 and had a lip. Not time to push but time to go to the bathroom.
So finally I worked up the courage after a contraction to run to the bathroom, go potty and try to get back before the next contraction. I managed to get there and almost back before the contraction bit. After doing that, it cleared the last little bit of lip and the baby started coming. Mentally, I started praying for strength to get through the pushing. Christina and Kyle encouraged me telling me I could do it. It took a couple of contractions but finally I hunkered down and embraced the pushing. I was pushing before then but it was a mix of pushing it and not pushing it because of the pain. I felt him move down and the ring of fire begin.
I told my midwife between contractions I didnt want to tear and she said she would help as much as she could and tell me when I needed to stop and wait. So the final few contractions, I focused on pushing but not too fast so that it would have time to stretch and not tear. Between contractions, I held back tears from the pain, but was able to manage. This whole time I was praying while dealing with it. I later found out that right as he was being pushed out, and I was praying for help, my sister’s dream had changed and she was praying for me in her sleep. She woke up praying and looked at the clock she was it was 310 am. God is so good to have a great cloud of witnesses and support for us when we don’t even know it.
She said he is coming and finally I pushed him out with a declaration of “oh, thank God, he’s out!” I held him and he did a small cry about 10 sec out. Then he did a full cry 30 seconds or so later. I cried a little bit from the pain and relief of being done and then I focused on Rowan.
The rest after the birth was uneventful. I moved from the tub to the bed, delivered the placenta. He was weighed and measured. Other after birth stuff. It was finished, all by the grace of God. My labor started and finished before we had to take measures to “induce”. He is a healthy 7lbs 11 oz, 20.5 in long and 13 in head.
All the hope I lost was redeemed in the end. Even with things spiralling out of control, God remained faithful and in control.
Two days later, I am so grateful to be free from all the ways pregnancy held my body captive. Unfortunately, I’m still experiencing the itching but know with time that too will return to normal. This story is about hope, God’s faithfulness. Trusting God to the end and knowing that He will be glorified and his word does not go out from His mouth and return void. If you feel God leading you, do not depart from it. One of the last things before Tuesday evening I felt God speaking to me was the story of Saul as he waited for Samuel to offer the sacrifices to the Lord. As he waited and Samuel was long in coming, he got impatient and offered the sacrifices himself just as Samuel arrived. Because of this, it cost him the kingdom.
A week later, I am happy to report my itching has stopped completely. Things have ticked up in the world with social isolation and corona but things here have settled down.
Rowan is a sweet little guy who makes the noisiest noises when he is awake but hardly ever cries. He sleeps more often then not and seems to have a chill personality. Only time will tell if he will be as rambunctious as his two older brothers.
Rejoice in the Lord’s Redeemed. This is the story of how I had a home birth with my second son, Kaius.
From before even the moment that Kaius was conceived, God told me that things were going to be different. In August of 2017, God began to speak to me about His blessings that He would pour out in our life. That thing would be different from the past with Gabe.
If you read my post about getting pregnant with Gabe, you know that we used metformin to help us conceive. Also, if you read the next post, you know my labor and delivery with him was anything but pleasant. In August, I felt like God was telling me that I was going to get pregnant that month and I had finally (thought) I had figured out what was causing my liver issues. I stopped the metformin and was trusting God for the right timing on me getting pregnant again.
We were already trying and it had been several months of nothing at that point. I got excited! I knew when God said things were going to happen they did! So, as that cycle came and went with a negative pregnancy test I questioned whether I heard right. I continued to hope and I continued to trust that when I heard God say I would get pregnant that I would.
In the meantime, my sister got a positive pregnancy test. I was slightly excited slightly jealous. She started investigating midwives and birth centers for her pregnancy. I decided to go with her since I knew it was only a matter of time before I got mine as well. I had been contemplating what to do about my labor and delivery because of the ICP. I was 90% likely to get it in my next pregnancy, which generally means an induction at 37 weeks. I had already visited one or two other birth centers in town and was also considering going with the dr and hospital I had ended up with Gabe at. Or, would I risk it and go for a home birth with the chance of being transferred again?
On the day we went for a tour of one, God showed me the verse Isaiah 30:21 Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”
We went to the tour and immediately fell in love with the patient midwife. She was our age, also pregnant and personable. She answered all of my questions even ones relating to ICP. This was it. Joy surged in my soul because I knew God was going to use her to birth a new hope in me that I lost after labor with Gabe.
Around mid-September, God showed me the verse Isaish 43:19,
“See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
and streams in the wasteland.”
I was beginning to wonder if I should start some type of natural supplement to help or if I should just keep waiting. I prayed and told Kyle we would wait and see one more month then try something. By October 1st, I got a positive pregnancy test! I was elated. I knew this was going to be different. That this pregnancy was from God and things would be completely different from Gabe’s. It was such a glorious answer to prayer and new hope of what God was going to do in this pregnancy.
The whole pregnancy I just felt peace and joy about the upcoming home birth. Things were different because I was resting in the promise that God was redeeming something in me. I took progesterone the whole first trimester, as I had with Gabe, due to low progesterone because of PCOS. Other than that, things were smooth sailing.
By the middle of my pregnancy, I was itching a bit and got worried. I asked my midwife to test me for Cholestasis. I was ready for anything. Surprisingly and not surprisingly, even with the slight itching, everything came back normal. I had started some liver support supplements and vitamins to keep everything running smoothly.
Leading up to labor and delivery with Kai, I was extremely nervous about going to 42 weeks and not going into labor. In TX, legally midwives cannot delivery babies prior to 37 weeks or after 42 for home births. So, starting in my 38th week I began a supplement that helps your adrenal gland. By 39 weeks, I added 3 red raspberry leaf capsules 3x a day to help with effective contractions. In addition to those, I pumped several times, bounced on a ball, and added in 3 (1000 mg) evening primrose oil capsules vaginally two nights in a row.
When I went for my 39th-week appointment on Tuesday, I was a bit discouraged because my midwife said that his head wasn’t engaged at all and I wasn’t dilated at all. She also warned me that second-time moms sometimes had really quick labor and to let them know as soon as possible so they didn’t miss getting there.
On Friday, for the majority of the day, nothing happened except for some house issues that we had to call a plumber in for. Our ac had backed up and caused a huge amount of flooding underneath it. It was stressful and not the right time for us to be dealing with it because the baby would be here any day. And that would cause some complications with having a home birth with no air conditioner in the middle of June! Thankfully, the plumber unclogged it and got everything working correctly. I noticed while he worked that I was having some tightening in my uterus but nothing painful or consistent so I just ignored it.
That night, as we got to bed around midnight, the tightening seemed to be happening regularly but still not painful. Around 1:30 am I woke up to Gabe kicking me and I was pretty irritated and went to take a bath. I realized while I was in the bath they were coming to every 5 min but still not painful or even anything.. around 4 I started to feel them but not in a painful way just there. I was back in bed trying to sleep but would be woken up with every tightening. Not because of pain, but more like an awareness that things were happening.
I went back and forth about telling the midwife but since they weren’t painful. I didn’t want to be the girl who cried labor and really I hedged on waking people up. So, I rested through them and text my birth people at 6ish… Kyle and I were up with Gabe most of the night. For some reason, looking back now I think maybe he knew something was happening too, he wasn’t sleeping well.
When we got up that morning, Kyle was supposed to go to work even though it was Saturday. He also had planned to take our mower to get fixed. I was still on the fence about whether this was false labor or real, but finally decided it was better he stay home rather than risk him missing everything. We decided we would go out for a nice breakfast and go ahead and send Gabe over to my sisters to be watched.
Kyle took Gabe to drop him off, and I decided to stay home to prep for the home birth by taking a shower plus put on makeup. Who wants to have a baby and not look great?! 🙂 After the shower, it was like 9sh and they were picking up in pain. But still not unbearable. I was putting on makeup, listening to music and stopping with contractions to dance around through them.
When Kyle got home, instead of going to breakfast, we decided to go to Walmart since we needed groceries and I thought the walking would help. At the rate I was progressing I thought it would be this evening or tonight or even tomorrow cause it seemed slow. I had talked to the midwife several times and assured her that based on the pain that I had with Gabe, I couldn’t be more than a 2 to 4 in dilation.
As I danced and stopped with contractions, it ended up taking me an hr and a half to do my make up because I’d have to stop and dance or squat through the contraction. I was blasting the Greatest Showman soundtrack and having a good time. Finally, we left the house and headed to Walmart around 11:07 am. I had hired a doula for this birth, and the plan for her was to join us at noon back at our house.
God Is so good. I was worried about going 42 wks and worried I would have to induce myself. Instead everything unfolded in just a magical way and I was able to have the home birth I thought I would have had with Gabe. It just so awesome how it happened because I didn’t even know I was really in labor for most of it and then it went so fast. He was born healthy at 6 lbs 13 oz, 21 inches long. Every time I think about his home birth I smile and see how God did completely redeem all the negative things I experienced in Gabe’s labor and delivery.